Communication is the key...

In the past.. what seems like the very distant past now.. I knew some people.. people I no longer know.. people that I apparently never really knew. People that could walk away from me without so much as a word to say why.. People claiming I had done something horrible to them so they did not want me in their life but never mentioning what this horrible thing was.

I have taught my children an important trait and that is this.. If you have a problem with someone.. an issue with something they have done, said, or are doing, then tell them. Things cannot be fixed if they are ignored. Do not ignore the small things that bother you for one day they will become big things in your mind. Give others a chance to know what is bothering you. If you don't tell them then how would they know?

We always tend to assume that everyone else in the world knows what we are thinking and that they do things purposely against us. 98% of the time, that isn't true. Most people go about their daily lives just minding their own business.. living their own lives, not realizing that something they did or said upset someone else.

No one is perfect. It isn't possible. Not everyone is meant to be friends or even like each other. There are people that fit with our personalities and those that don't.. and that is ok.

I have met many many people in my short 32 years on this earth.. I am proud to have met them. I cannot say that I have enjoyed the company of all of them or that they have all enjoyed my company, but I can tell you that I enjoyed meeting them and having them in my life for whatever amount of time they were there.

Be the happiness that you want to see in the world. Treat your friends and acquaintances with respect by giving them a chance and letting them know when you are having issues. Break the silence. Be strong and be happy. Remember that if you come to someone with a problem in a mature manner without accusing you may find that what happened was a miscommunication.

Give people the chance that you would want to be given to explain themselves.

I pray that everyone in my life knows that I care about them and I try to tell them when I can. I hope that if any problems do arise that my friends would be good enough to come to me with the problem. Let us fix these things together rather than letting a world of confusion tear us apart.

Love to all..

30 days of me- Day 29

Day 29 - hopes, dreams and plans for the next 365 days

Hopes, dreams, and plans for the next year.. hmm.. well we are planning to move again, to where, I do not know yet but it will happen. We plan to visit all the places Kris remembers from growing up in Washington and we plan to have Tristan start school in August. My dad is planning to fly here on the 4th of November so he can ride up to Washington with us.. It should be a great trip.

My hopes... I hope that my family stays healthy and safe.. I also pray for that...I hope that my nieces enjoy spending the summer with me as they will be with me for June through August and I cannot wait to see them! I hope that I can have a positive impact on the lives of others and make them smile. I hope that no matter where life takes us we will always be able to view things positively. I hope that my family and friends always know how much I love and appreciate them.

My dreams.. well.. I don't know that I really have any dreams.. I have more than I could have ever dreamed of right now... I have a wonderful relationship with a man that I love so very much, three great kids that drive me batty at times but are still great kids.. One of the best FF's that I could ever ask for .. and many other friends that I have grown even closer with in the past years..
So I will say my dream is to continue to meet new people, have a positive impact on them and even make some new friends along the way.

30 days of me- Day 22

Day 22 - a website

There are only a few websites that I frequent.. this one of course.. Facebook..sparkpeople to track my calorie intake, and A Sailors Anchor the Forum based website that I created for Navy Wives and S.O.'s.


I already mentioned ASA in a previous post and how much it means to me. Giving Navy wives a place to connect means a lot to me. Being a Navy Wife myself, I know how hard it is to constantly move to new places and not know anyone there. This site has allowed me to meet so many wonderful women virtually and in person all over the world. I will be meeting some more new ladies when head up to Washington in a couple months and I am really looking forward to that. There are some wonderful women that I have gotten to speak to online that I am very excited to meet in person. I also look forward to our next move and meeting even more of these wonderful women.

I hope that every woman that joins this site will get out and get to know each other. I know I have been shy at times not wanting to put myself out there for fear of not being liked, but don't miss the opportunity to make a new best friend!

Not everyone you meet will be your new best friend, but you will still have great times and meet wonderful people. You will even find that person that will stick with you as a friend no matter how far apart the navy sends you. Trust me on that one. Don't get discouraged if you don't find that friend right away, keep enjoying the company of the wonderful women you meet and you will find that special friend.

ASA has given me a new interest in meeting people and I even host many get togethers myself. I love having access to so many wonderful people. If you are a navy wife or significant other.. please join us.. you will be glad you did. :)

A great day!

Today has been an excellent day..

It started off with an email from my wonderful husband sending me the HPC form that we have been waiting for.. The form that makes scheduling our move to Wa possible! So as soon as I got that email I got online and finished scheduling our move and emailed in the extra paperwork. I am so thrilled that is done now! Only thing we are waiting for now is a leave chit.. :) So the morning started off wonderfully and continued to get better! :)

My in-laws took the kids and I got a "Me" day.. :) So I called Nicole and she came out to go get a pedicure with me! Yay! It was nice having her go with me and having a girls day.. with no kids to drive us nuts..lol


We hung out and got pedicures then went to lunch.. after lunch we had to hit Jcpenney for the Labor day sale.. and look what we found!

These dresses were awesome! Especially Nicole's dress, unfortunately hers was 90 bucks! So she didn't get it..:( I did buy mine! I will be wearing it to my graduation ceremony!! :) I love it! It is so comfortable too.



I am thinking that we HAVE to find an identical dress to this one for cheaper, cause it looks awesome!


It was so wonderful having Nicole to go shopping with! Look out Wa, cause her and I will be living closer to one another! lol
Nicole had to leave the mall earlier than I did, she had a thing to go to .. so I went to VS and picked up my free undies and cheap bra with my coupon! :)

Once I got home my wonderful friend Ed called me.. which is a good thing because I was worried about him, since I hadn't heard from him since monday.

I also got a call from the love of my life.. a day is always good when I get to hear Kris' voice..:)

My FIL cooked dinner for everyone, of course I was still full from eating with Nicole so I didn't eat.. but I did make some popcorn for everyone..:) Now everyone is in bed and I am relaxing.. working on getting rid of the perfume headache that I acquired at sephora...lol..

30 days of me- Day 14

Day 14 - a non-fictional book

Hmm... I do read non-fictional books but most of them are biographies.. I don't know that I have a favorite as far as that goes.. but there are a few books that I would like to suggest. .. Actually come to think of it.. I do have a favorite.. This book changed me .. inside and out.. It made me rethink who I am and become a better person. When I began college the second time I had to take a class called Human service Ethics.. since I am a psychology major. This book helps you to look within yourself and determine why you are the way you are.. what things you are holding on to that are hurting you .. and how to let go of those things. I have to say it really worked on me.. helping me to work through some major issues I have dealt with throughout my life with my family. If you have anger issues or problems making friends.. you need to read this book.. it will change your life, if you let it.

This book is called "I Never Knew I had a Choice.. Explorations in personal growth"



It is a college book so it can be pricey, but it is so very worth it! There are two things that have made me grow as a person, and allow me to continue to grow.. Those are God, and this book. Honestly this book helped me renew my faith too, among other things. It showed me that I can let go of the anger and move on.. my anger only harms me and those I am angry at.. well they just don't care. Why let someone else have that kind of power over you?

It is the well adjusted person who can forgive and move on.. However, forgiving someone for what they have done to you doesn't mean that you have to be friends with them or even have a relationship with them again. It just means that you are able to let go of the anger inside yourself that can truly eat you alive.

Before I read this book, when I would meet someone for the first time their impression of me was that I was a bitch. I never understood why. It is funny to me now cause most of the time my first impression on people now is completely different.. I have told current friends about former people's impression of me and to my surprise they laughed and said "you". It is good to know that I don't radiate that anger that I held within myself for so long anymore. I have worked hard to be a more friendly outgoing person and I continue to work on that.

I pride myself in being a person that my friends and acquaintances can come to in their time of need. I want to be better than I am, I want to continue to grow as a person and I want to help others in any way I can.

I guarantee you that if you read this book, you will find things out about yourself that you didn't even know were there and you will heal.

Here is the link to it on Amazon if you would like to give it a try.
I Never Knew I had a Choice